Tuesday, August 31, 2010

A Considerate caregiver

The following suggestions can help make you a better and more considerate caregiver:
  • Encourage independence: If it takes your father 10 minutes to button his shirt, so be it. The 'I'll-do-it-for-you' attitude leads to work overload (for you) as well as increasing dependence and low self-esteem on the older person's part.
  • Set limits: A highly dependent parent can be demanding. You should know your limits and learn how to refuse requests politely but firmly. You could say: 'No, I'm too tired to go to the store today. We'll go tomorrow.' A failure on this count can lead to resentment and a feeling of being ill-treated on the part of the caregiver.
  • Make time for fun: Break the routine occasionally by inviting friends and other family members over to watch a funny movie or play cards. A little laughter and a bit of socialising can lift everyone's spirits.
  • Encourage your parents to remain active: Also, motivate them to take part in community activities so that they have additional sources of support, and are not totally dependent on you.
  • Share the care: When your friends or relatives offer to help, accept it gladly and gratefully.
  • Take a break: This aspect is critical. You could risk your own health if you persevere for long periods without a break. Get someone to fill in for you as often and as long as needed.
  • Cancel guilt trips: You're bound to experience anger and frustration, but don't let these feelings make you feel guilty, they are normal. Your parents most probably felt the same way about you when you used to give them a hard time as a child !
  • Stay active: Even though you may feel limited as far as time and freedom are concerned, do your best to keep your interests in a club or hobby alive. These activities will continue to enrich your life when your caregiving responsibilities are over.

Caring for an older adult is very different from caring for a child

Caring for an older adult is very different from caring for a child. With the passage of time older persons become more dependent on others, not less. On some days, the experience may feel like an emotional roller-coaster ride: you quickly move from pity and guilt to love and on to anger and frustration.

HELP TALKS - Dr.Avanti Kadam(Back Rx) on 'Prevent Backache by Learning to Sit Right - All about Ergonomics'

This video is a talk conducted by Dr.Avanti Kadam(Back Rx) at HELP on 28th Aug' 10: topic - "Prevent Backache by Learning to Sit Right - All about Ergonomics"

Dr.Avanti Kadam can be contacted at 99300 42776.

Monday, August 30, 2010

Schedule of HELP TALKS from 1st September - 15th September 2010

Hello Dear Readers,

As you know, we constantly try to upgrade the talks conducted at the center, you shouldn't miss!

Following is the schedule of the talks/workshops. All of these talks are absolutely Free of charge. For details log on to our website:www.healthlibrary.com.

Please do attend and also inform your friends and relatives who could take advantage of this unique free service.

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Date Speaker Topic


1st Sept


Mr.Nitin Jain

Third Eye Meditation



2nd Sept


Mr. Husain Saboowala

Defeat Diabetes through proper Diet



3rd Sept


Mr.Mehernosh Chhapkhanwalla

Optimal Health - Just Few Small Steps away



4th Sept


Ms.Radha Krishnan (NGO-Arpan)

Breaking the Silence - How to Protect Our Children from Sexual Abuse



6th Sept


Mr.Vijay Jain

Your Birth, Nakshatra & its Relationship with Human,Plants, Vaastu and Health



7th Sept



Mind Powers for Healing -Part 2



8th Sept 03.30pm

Dr.Rohit Bartake

Saar Parikshan - Know Your Saar



9th Sept


Dr.Ravindra Kapadia

Energy Remedy for Sleep



10th Sept


Ms.Faustinellia Annelyse

The Science of Muscle Testing: Kinesiology-Touch for Health



11th Sept


Mr.Farrokh Buchia

Introduction to Transactional Analysis



13th Sept


Dr.Gayatri Devi

Memory & Concentration through Ayurveda



14th Sept


Dr.Sonal Motta

Prevention of Diseases in the Body



15th Sept


Mr.Saradindu Chanda

Meditation & Right Action


To register call: 65952393/94, 22061101, 22031133

HELP TALKS - Mr.Uttam Dave on 'Root Causes of Sexual Problems'

This video is a talk conducted by Mr. Uttam Dave at HELP on 27th Aug' 10: Topic - "Root Causes of Sexual Problems"

Mr Uttam Dave(MPhil in Counseling & Guidance) conducts workshops on mental health,relationships, marriage skills,parenting skills, business skills and human sexuality.He also conducts Pre-marital counseling and advanced sex counseling at Pragat Vidya Mandir , Andheri(w)

Mr Dave also holds talks at HELP library on subjects of human interest and those which enhance the quality of our lives. Mr Dave can be contacted on 9920655464 / daveuttam7@gmail.com

Make your caregiving relationship as positive as possible

Try to make your caregiving relationship as positive as possible, while, at the same time, being realistic. The relationship you had with your parent as a child doesn't disappear, and if you had a friendly, easygoing rapport with your mother or father when you were younger, it's likely to continue. However, if the relationship was subject to stresses, they may re-emerge. Also remember that prominent personality traits tend to become exaggerated as both of you grow older.

HELP TALKS - Dr.S.Srinivasan on 'Failure is as Important as Success'

This video is a talk conducted by Dr.S.Srinivasan at HELP on 26th Aug' 10: topic - "Failure is as Important as Success"

Dr.S.Srinivasan is a Life Coach & can be contacted at balanceistheessence@gmail.com.His Website is www.thebalance.in

Saturday, August 28, 2010

HELP TALKS - Dr.Abhijit Redij on 'Stress Management with Yoga-Part 4'

This video is a Workshop conducted by Dr.Abhijit Redij at HELP on 25th Aug '10 : Topic - 'Stress Management with Yoga-Part 4'

Dr.Abhijit Redij can be contacted at 98694 36203

Beautiful and Better Smile, Without Teeth Whitener


by Dr. Leo Rebello


Beautiful smile, with all 32 teeth showing, as depicted in Colgate toothpaste

advertisements seduce many to buy that toothpaste with fluoride, which,

in fact, does more harm than doing good in the long run.

Likewise all those teeth whitening products consisting of strips, gels, trays

and lights, available with your dentist, pharmacy or the grocery shops

are not advisable in the long run.

The ingredients of the teeth whiteners to remove stains from your teeth do

more harm to the teeth, gums and buccal cavity. They wear off the natural

enamel from your teeth (this is called demineralisation) due to hydrogen peroxide,

and other abrasive chemicals in them. This leads to Tooth decay which causes pain,

tooth loss, infection, chewing problems, bleeding gums and serious infection

that can travel to other parts of your body and make you very ill.

It is important to note that these bleaching products are fairly recent and their

long term side effects are not known.

If you wish to have a really dazzling smile and strong teeth, without gingivitis

and bad breath, do the following : -

(a) Take finely powdered salt, mix it with powdered charcoal and clean

your teeth with your fingers. Even tobacco stains go with that. As against

tooth brush which damage the gums, your finger strengthens the gums with


(b) Eat lots of crunchy vegetables like carrots, cucumbers, broccoli, celery,

and fresh seasonal fruits and drink citric fruit juices. They contain natural

cleansers and help scrub away the stains without leeching on the calcium

in your teeth and the bones.

(c) Use natural toothpastes like Mesvak, Vicco Vajradanti, Babul (Neem),

Homeodent (which contains sweet fennel - good as a digestive and

safe for children who eat the toothpaste), or

(d) The good old Datun stick.

In Homeopathy, for example, we have following effective remedies

Tartar formation - Fragaria (wood strawberry).

Toothache and receding gums - Ammonium Carb.

Swollen and bleeding gums - Argentum Nitricum (good also for canker sores).

Loss of enamel and gum boils - Calcarea Fluorica (good for osteoporosis, too).

To strengthen the jaws and difficult teething - Hekla Lava (good for gum abscess as well).

Keep smiling naturally; smile is contagious, why not spread a contagion?

Handle caregiving successfully

To sidestep an unpleasant situation and to ensure that you handle caregiving as successfully as possible, you should go in for a little thought, education and preplanning. To start with, hold a family session when your parents are well. Talk about the future, and what they would like you to do for them in case they fall stick. Involve your brothers and sisters in the discussion and hold it in a positive atmosphere. Although talking about old age and impending debility can be uncomfortable, and disconcerting, this could be the most positive approach in the long run. Consider covering the following areas:
  • Division of labour: Decide who will do what - in an unambiguous manner - when your parents need help. If one relative lives close by and decides to be the primary caregiver, it's crucial that the other siblings play a supportive role. One should also find answers to the following important queries: Who will give the primary caregiver a break when he or she needs it? Who will help financially? Who will lend a sympathetic ear when the primary caregiver feels overwhelmed?
  • Money: To plan for the years ahead, you should know your parents' financial resources. Such information helps you avoid the pitfalls of arranging for your parents to live beyond or below their means. If you're the main caregiver, decide well ahead of time if you want financial compensation for your efforts. This attitude might seem very commercial , but may actually help in the long run!
  • Insurance: Make sure your parents have taken adequate medical insurance to cover their medical expenses.
  • Living will: This document puts into writing what medical measures your family member does and doesn't want to be taken in the event of a terminal illness or condition.
  • Power of attorney: This legal document allows a designated person to make specified legal and financial decisions if your parent or elderly relative becomes unable to manage his or her affairs.

Friday, August 27, 2010

HELP TALKS - Dr.Sonal Motta on 'The Magic of Dowsing in Vaastu - Health and Harmony'

This video is a workshop conducted by Dr.Sonal Motta at HELP on 24th Aug' 10 : Topic - "The Magic of Dowsing in Vaastu - Health and Harmony"

Dr.Sonal Motta can be contacted at 9930099110

Caregiving: Taking Care of Elders

Thanks to the rapid advances in the field of medicine, more and more people live to a ripe old age, it is increasingly likely that you will be taking care of older relatives at home. While this has always been a traditional practice in the joint Indian family, caregiving can prove to be quite a burden in the modern Indian city. Caregiving refers to a wide range of involvement - everything, from checking in on your relatives every day at their places of residence to providing round-the-clock care for your parents in your own home.
Entering into a caregiving relationship offers a valuable chance to reconnect with someone for whom you care deeply. But as this person ages and becomes more infirm and demanding with each passing day the relationship can become increasingly stressful and, at times, acrimonious. Also, ambivalent or unhappy feelings from the past can re-emerge and cause pain and bitterness, unless you work through them positively. If you're trying to shoulder the burden all alone, the frustrations may overwhelm you. An amicable situation can turn sour and, in some cases, mistreatment or abuse of the older person could be the tragic result. As testimony to this disquieting but indisputable reality, the media is reporting more and more cases of abuse and neglect of the elderly in India. Many parents have even been forced to commit suicide when they have got fed up of the ill-treatment they have received.

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Old age and active sex life

Contrary to popular opinion, most senior citizens want to enjoy active, and satisfying sex lives. The natural process of aging does entail physical changes that can sometimes adversely affect sexual intimacy and your capabilities during intercourse. Women may experience discomfort during sex because their vagina becomes drier and more fragile. As they get older, men often notice differences in their erection patterns, and it may take them longer to achieve an erection and to sustain it. Also, the erection may not be as firm or as large as during their younger years. Anxiety and depression, which often accompany a chronic illness can also interfere with your libido.

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

HELP TALKS - Ms.Rukmini Iyer on Lost Time Gone Forever - Busting the Myths of Time

This video is a talk by Ms.Rukmini Iyer at HELP on 23rdAug,10. Topic "Lost Time Gone Forever - Busting the Myths of Time". Ms.Rukmini Iyer can be contacted at 98190 74099. This is part of the HELP Talk series at HELP, Health Education Library for People, the worlds largest free patient education library www.healthlibrary.com

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Tuesday, August 24, 2010

HELP TALKS - Mr.Niranjan Gogia on Yoga for Cervical Spondylosis

This video is a workshop conducted by Mr.Niranjan Gogia at HELP on 21st Aug '10 : topic - "Yoga for Cervical Spondylosis"

Mr.Niranjan Gogia can be contacted at 9820093514


The following points should be borne in mind:
  • Ensure a balanced diet, including five helpings of fruits and vegetables a day.
  • Exercise regularly. However, check with your doctor before starting an exercise programme.
  • Go in for regular health check-ups.
  • Don't ever smoke. If you have picked up the habit, it's never too late to stop.
  • Practice safety habits at home to prevent falls and fractures. Always wear your seatbelt while driving a vehicle.
  • Stay in touch with family and friends. Remain active through work and play and interact regularly with other members of the community.
  • If you drink alcohol, moderation is the keyword. Let someone else drive the vehicle after each of your drinking bouts!
  • Adopt and maintain a positive attitude towards life. Do things that make you happy.

Since it's extremely difficult to change the habits of a lifetime overnight, it would be highly beneficial to develop good habits right from childhood. Such habits are likely to pay you rich dividends in the future, so that you can be playing golf while your contemporaries are ailing in hospital beds!
Fortunately, aging doesn't have to be a downhill slides and gaining adequate knowledge about changing body patterns over time can help you age the healthy way. Older people have the reputation of being more mature, experienced and thoughtful. Whether or not you become wiser as you grow older, you are likely to become farsighted for sure ! Farsightedness ( presbyopia ) is a change in vision that's a normal part of aging. Presbyopia is caused by a gradual hardening of the eye's lens, which impairs your ability to see up close. Your optometrist may recommend a pair of non-prescription reading glasses or prescribe bifocals for you. Staying active is a terrific way to stave off the negative effects of aging because it helps your body maintain, improve and even repair itself. Physical activity increases flexibility, lowers blood pressure, strengthens bones, slows down the process of osteoporosis, and promotes weight loss. The remarkable aspect about getting fit is that it's never too late to start. Fifteen to 30 minutes of exercise, with a warm-up and a cool-down, three or four times a week, would be ideal. Remember to start out slowly, exercising for about five to ten minutes twice a week, and gradually build up to a higher level of activity. choose an activity that you'll enjoy, and try to get a friend to accompany you. Brisk walking, swimming and yoga are just a few of the options. Before starting your regular exercise regimen, please check with your doctor about possible complications or risks.

Monday, August 23, 2010

Increase the chances of your growing old healthily!

Despite the advertised claims to the contrary, there is no fountain of youth or magic potion that can prevent the process of aging. And no one has still answered the key question: why do we grow old? According to a popular theory, free radicals damage cells, tissues and organs progressively and as we age the body's ability to neutralize such damages wanes. Presently, research is being conducted to test the anti-aging effects of human growth hormones, DHEA (Dehydroepiandrosterone), and other hormones, such as testosterone and estrogen. However, it's too early to ascertain whether or not any of these hormones will be effective. The fact remains that there is still no known drug, pill, or treatment that has been proven to reverse the aging process or to extend life. However, the good news is that there is solid evidence to prove that adopting a healthy lifestyle can both lengthen and improve the quality of an individual's later years.

Growing Old

Growing old is a bad habit which a busy man has no time to form. - - Andre Maurois.
The best way to live to a ripe old age entails possessing the right genes. In other words, if your parents and grandparents have led long lives, you are likely to do so too! However, the fact remains that while you cannot choose your parents, you can, nevertheless, increase the chances of your growing old healthily!

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Report your child’s symptoms accurately

Remember that you can help doctors and nurses do their job more competently by observing and reporting your child's symptoms accurately. It helps to prepare in advance by writing down your questions and observations.
A child in hospital can feel comforted if you bring along a few treasures such as favourite dolls, stuffed animals, security blankets or family pictures. These items provide a connection to home. School homework may not be a 'treasure,' but if your child is able to work on class assignments at the hospital, the process can ease the transition back to school. Although a hospital stay can be frightening, well-prepared children often show remarkable courage. Remember that children are very resilient, and can bounce back to health rapidly!